Roy - your post points up a really interesting and important thing. The difference between listening with people who “get it” or care about and hear the same things you do - even if your tastes in gear and music aren’t exactly the same, is a major deal. It can take many forms and be subtle and involve tradeoffs.
When I think of all of the comments from people who mention having to adapt the room to serving other purposes, their spouse’s interest/lack thereof/decorating tastes, etc., I reflect on my life with my late wife, and how that subtly but profoundly changed how things were music-wise in our house for me (and my children - until they were older). This is not to say that it was bad by any stretch - or that I blame her for anything - and I would take her back in an instant and give up my current freedom with respect to all things audio. But the dynamic of sharing a house and a life with someone is not an insignificant part in this equation. I would say that now, with 20/20 hindsight, I would do things somewhat differently. Not that I would “put my foot down” and impose my will on them more - but that I would share my love and enthusiasm more.
Just smile at those who don’t get it and communicate what you hear - and your love for it. Sometimes, it’s like being a rabid fan of an obscure sport that no one has heard of or understands how it is played.